If you don’t think you can do something, you’re right. If you think you can, you’re also right. The way we see ourselves plays a massive role in our ability to grow, improve, and succeed. This isn’t just a motivational saying—it’s backed by science.
Deep in your brain, the reticular activating system (RAS) filters information and reinforces your beliefs. Your mind holds onto data that supports what you already think is true. If you’ve spent years telling yourself, “I’m not a public speaker,” your brain has gathered evidence to support that belief. Every time you felt nervous speaking up in a meeting, stumbled over your words, or avoided giving a toast, your brain logged that data, strengthening the belief that speaking isn’t for you.
Over time, this belief turns into reality.
In other words, what you identify as, you become
But here’s the thing—many people don’t realize that they are already public speakers. If you speak in front of others, whether in meetings, classrooms, or casual group settings, you are engaging in public speaking. The only difference between you and those who embrace the label of “public speaker” is mindset.
The Science Behind Changing Your Self-Perception
Your brain constantly processes massive amounts of information, and the RAS acts as a gatekeeper, determining what gets through. If you believe you are not a public speaker, your brain will filter out evidence that suggests otherwise and reinforce the belief that speaking isn’t for you. However, when you start shifting that belief—even slightly—your brain begins to rewire itself. This is called neuroplasticity, the brain’s ability to adapt and change based on new experiences and perspectives.
When you tell yourself, “I am learning to be a public speaker,” your brain starts looking for proof of this new identity. It picks up on moments where you spoke clearly, where someone engaged with your words, or where you successfully communicated an idea. The more you reinforce this identity, the stronger it becomes, and soon, your brain starts working with you rather than against you.
Embracing Your Identity Opens Doors
When you shift your perception of yourself as a speaker, new opportunities naturally start appearing. You might find yourself volunteering to present at work, raising your hand to contribute in meetings, or even stepping up to give a speech at a social event.
The key is that once you see yourself as someone capable of speaking well, you start seeking out chances to practice and improve. And with every new experience, you get better, more comfortable, and more confident. It’s a cycle of growth—one that starts simply with how you see yourself.
Practical Steps to Own Your Identity as a Speaker
- Acknowledge that you already speak in public. If you’ve ever explained an idea in a meeting, answered a question in class, or even told a story to friends, you’ve engaged in public speaking. Recognize that you already have experience.
- Reframe your mindset. Instead of saying, “I hate speaking,” try saying, “I’m learning to enjoy speaking.” Your words influence your experience.
- Look for evidence of growth. Start gathering data that supports your ability to be a great speaker. Did you explain something clearly to a colleague? Did someone compliment your insight in a discussion? These small wins add up.
- Practice deliberately. The best way to reinforce your identity as a speaker is to act like one. Volunteer to present, practice with friends, or even record yourself speaking to track your progress.
- Surround yourself with positive influences. Listen to great speakers, read books on communication, and seek out environments that encourage growth.
Final Thoughts: Get Shipshape
Who you believe you are determines who you become. If you identify as someone who is improving at public speaking, you’ll find ways to develop that skill. The transformation starts with shifting your mindset.
The good news? You don’t have to navigate this journey alone. If you’re ready to step into your identity as a speaker, I can help you get shipshape. Whether it’s refining your message, practicing delivery, or overcoming nerves, I’m here to help you harness the power of your words and communicate with confidence.
So, the next time you hesitate before speaking up, remind yourself—you are a speaker.
You always have been.
Now, it’s just a matter of stepping into that identity and refining the skills that come with it.
This article was originally inspired by a LinkedIn post I wrote. You can read the original version here: https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/power-your-words-how-become-better-speaker-changing-foland–k70rc
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